Thursday, July 28, 2011

You have a lifetime to work, but children are only young once. ~Polish Proverb



I've been telling myself this for years and what happened? My daughter graduated from high school and I kept right on working seven days a week like she would be around forever.

Can I get a do-over? CTL-Z? Command-Z Undo? Mulligan? Anything that turns back the clock.

For most of us there's little way out of working all the time. After all, the kids need computers and cell phones. I said it, they NEED them. I wish they didn't but they're valuable for them and for us. They don't need them as much as they need food, clothes and shelter but they still need them.

They also need a lot of other things. They WANT more than they need but they can't have everything. Where would they put it? So we work to be able to buy them as much as we can. The work, the money, and what we buy them never seems to be enough - for them or for us. So we keep working to buy them whatever we can afford.

What they really need more than anything is to spend time with us, their parents, while they're still young enough to like us. And while we still like them. Think I'm kidding? You don't have a teenager yet. :-)

All kidding aside, I knew the time would come when they'd grow up and we'd see less and less of them. I just didn't count on it being so painful when it happened.

Take my advice, and this pearl of wisdom from the Polish Proverb, "You have a lifetime to work, but children are only young once."



Tuesday, July 19, 2011

A three year old child is a being who gets almost as much fun out of a fifty-six dollar set of swings as it does out of finding a small green worm. ~Bill Vaughan


Oh, how true that is!

When our kids were born we spent so much money buying all the things we thought were important. Toys to play with and games to learn by, books to read, and clothes, clothes, and more clothes.

What did we learn?

Their favorite toys were old, broken phones and keyboards. And when they grew tired of those they moved on to the kitchen to the pots and pans and wooden spoons. They banged the heck out of 'em.

Their favorite games were hide and seek and running and playing. They didn't want to be tied down to games.

The books were good but they liked the ones with fun pictures the best.

Forget the clothes. They were naked all the time. At least they WANTED to be.

They were just a few years old and what did they know? They certainly didn't know the difference between the brand new, high-tech, expensive toys and the old, worn out freebies laying around the house. They wanted to be just like us, they're parents - talking on the phone, playing on the computer, and cooking in the kitchen.

 I have no idea where that running around the house naked concept came from. :-)

(Note: The small, green worm pictured above was named Scott and he spent a few days with us long ago. We actually did have a good time with him before letting him go to be with his friends. We have no idea what happened to him but we still have the pictures and look at them every once in a while. The kids still remember.)